I don’t have an older sister but I am one myself. My sister is a few years younger than me so I’ve always felt that there’s some things that only I can teach her. And some advice that only I can give her. You know the talks that you can’t really have with your parents or your friend. That’s what sisters are for.
Not every one of us has siblings so I though I’d round up some of the things I’d say to someone younger than me.
#1 QUALITY OVER QUANTITY
In this case, I’m talking about friends. The number of friends doesn’t matter. If you have one person in your life who you can trust and who makes you happy – you’re very lucky. Trying to be in friend groups and “cliques” is such a waste of time and energy if you don’t actually enjoy spending time with them.
#2 YOU DON’T HAVE TO
If everyone around you is doing something, it does not mean that you have to do it too. You do not have to go out if everyone is going out. Same applies to every single thing that is considered “cool” in school. Don’t do something unless you are completely comfortable with it and don’t let the pressure break you.
#3 PUT YOU FIRST
Don’t put anything above yourself in school. Parties, boys, outings, drama – the kinds of things that can stand in the way of your progress and personal growth never have to be prioritized. Simply because your development is more important than temporary things. I always say – if it won’t matter in 5 years, don’t spend more than 5 minutes worrying about it.
#4 DON’T COMPARE
Whether it’s your grades or your looks. Don’t compare yourself to anyone else in this world. There’s no one like you and that’s your power. Embrace your flaws and your personality. Don’t try to be someone else. The right people will like you for who you are and that is what will make you truly happy.
#5 EDUCATE YOURSELF
Spend free time with a purpose. Watch some interesting for you TED talks instead of scrolling through instagram for hours. Get self-development books that you think will make you a better person. Read more. If you’re interested in a topic – research about it and fill yourself in on everything you wanna know until you’re almost like an expert. Knowledge is opportunities and chances. This is probably the most important advice that I’d give.
#6 DON’T RUSH
…To do anything really. Everything comes at the right time. Most importantly, don’t rush to grow up, because you will miss everything about the past. Laugh more, joke more, play more games even when you’re older – because the secret for happiness is actually always being a kid at heart.